Many of your decisions will be based on your age, how long you were married before your spouse passed, and your religious practices.Grief counselors generally recommend a period of mourning, but the amount of time is ultimately up to you.Although it can be exciting to find love again, thoughts of the dead partner can cast a shadow over any new romance.Sometimes people feel guilty about wanting company and physical love.For my non-Facebook subscribers: Online magazine “Ravishly” asked me to write an article on the media reaction to Patton Oswalt’s engagement. Immediately after the death of a spouse, there are so many issues a person has to deal with it's difficult to consider everyday life without the person. Am I now "Ms.," or should people still address me as "Mrs."?And the surviving spouse may well feel that he or she was not always patient or very loving when the other person was dying.
Recently a commenter voiced the common lament of many widowed back out in the dating trenches, And if you loved them, you’d not expect such a thing because though a new partner can be understanding, sympathetic and even feel bad for what you’ve been through – grieving isn’t a date night activity.Often they have all sorts of other unresolved emotions about the death of the partner, and the more they try to ignore them, the more they tend to surface. But they might be about anger that the person has gone, or about resentment that other people are still a couple and can look forward to an old age together.Sometimes feelings revolve round sad or even horrible images of the last days or weeks of a partner's life.However, after the funeral is over and things start to settle down, there are some things you'll need to consider and decisions you'll have to make. These are just some of the questions I've been asked.There are quite a few questions about various etiquette rules related to being widowed. Although there are social standards, remember that you have to do what you're comfortable with.In some cases, this packing up includes tangible objects.