You don’t think she’s a guy (though many butch women get mistaken for being guys!
Ellen De Generes is a great example of a butch woman coming into her comfort zone.These rules are only to be followed if you have a mutual trust and respect.I am presuming that, in choosing your partner, you have found someone who makes it her priority to maintain the best interest of your relationship. Masculine identified women are well aware of how the world views them.She can pass for being straight, but we know she’s not because she said so and because of who she is with (i.e. A butch is the lesbian who will never put on a dress or wear makeup, a bra or thong that comes from Victoria’s Secret. She’s the one who builds houses, drives a motorcycle and loved her military service because she could wear a uniform just like the guys. Femme lesbians are seen a lot more often in the media and get the leading celesbian roles in lesbian media. It sparked the stereotypical question that is still often asked, “So who’s the guy? ” It’s a stupid question because no one is trying to be the guy in a lesbian relationship, and no one is arguing about who wears pants versus who wears the dress or who’s going to have the baby. We are in a time period where the femme lesbian gets all the attention because straight male culture enjoys fantasizing about a night with two lesbians. Femmes are no more interested in hooking up with a guy than butches, and straight male porn creates fantasies about lesbians that are not even close to true. Just like in the offline world, you will have to take a chance. You can join sites that give you the option to choose if you are butch looking for a femme lesbian or vice versa. Whenever you meet a person you've found online, you should do so in a public place, and you should never give out personal information. These sites are usually ones that help you find a match rather than offering a simple forum for lesbians to meet others on their own.