may be more vulnerable to abuse from a boyfriend, new research suggests.These girls were more likely to say a boyfriend had verbally or physically abused them: 32 percent did, versus 28 percent of their peers who went through puberty "on time."It's a small difference, said senior researcher Sara Jaffee, a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania in Philadelphia.Plus, she added, girls who look older than their peers can be more attractive to boys, including older boys.When kids look older than they are, some people may expect them to "act older" than they are, explained Dr. She is an adolescent medicine specialist at Children's Hospital at Montefiore, in New York City.Clearly, Jaffee pointed out, not all girls who mature early experience -- and girls who mature later are not immune from it.It's actually striking that dating abuse was common across the board, she said.
Therefore, it is imperative for teens to remember that abuse is a cycle, and will usually escalate as the relationship continues.
The dynamics of power and control in a teen dating relationship can be just as dangerous as those found in an adult relationship.
Dating violence can affect people from all socioeconomic, racial, ethnic, and religious backgrounds, and occurs in heterosexual, gay, and lesbian relationships.
“No One Deserves To Be Abused.” Used with Permission from the National Crime Prevention Council Dating violence or abuse affects one in four teens. It includes yelling, threatening, name calling, saying “I’ll kill myself if you leave me,” obsessive phone calling or paging and extreme possessiveness. Is jealous and possessive, won’t let you have friends, checks up on you or won’t accept breaking up? Tries to control you by being bossy, giving orders, making all the decisions, or not taking your opinion seriously? Puts you down in front of friends or tells you that you would be nothing without him or her?
Makes you worry about reactions to things you say or do?
For example, very often young men are taught that they need to be in control of their partner; to “wear the pants” in the relationship.