You will know what true love is when you can give it to someone, without expecting anything back.” I called bullsh*t on this at the time.
It seemed impossible that I could ever give my heart to someone who can’t give theirs back to me.
, especially those entries that focus on the weddings of two ambitious, Type-A personalities, both of whom launched their own hedge funds or internet companies, but only after they built a hospital in a third-world country with their bare hands.
But the latest Vows column was very different, breaking throughout the usual jaded snark with its earnest romanticism between two decidedly normal people.
Richard Smith, 28, started dating Nicole Kendrot, 26, when they both lived in Rochester, N. Shortly after they got together, she accepted a job offer in New York City -- and they've been dating long-distance ever since.
(They visit each other and take trips at least every three weeks - in this picture, they're in San Diego in October 2012.) Long distance relationships never work, the colloquial wisdom goes.
Or rather, they'll work for a while: You’ll trade a few texts, Skype a few times, maybe even visit once in a while.
“You always hear people say ‘long-distance relationships suck’ or ‘long-distance relationships never work out,’” Jiang says.It is something we acquire through observing others and through trial and error ourselves.Many people enter marriage or partnerships with unrealistic expectations based upon initial excitement, attraction and enthusiasm. It is not just relationships with sexual partners that need nurturing and can suffer in today’s busy and demanding world.Not true, according to a small but growing number of social science studies.Long-distance relationships are, in many ways, stronger than relationships between couples who live together or close by, shows a new study published today in the Journal of Communication.“While the public and the science community hold a pessimistic view towards long distance (LD), this research provides compelling support for the opposite side – long distance is not necessarily inferior to geographically close dating,” says Crystal Jiang, an assistant professor of communication at City University of Hong Kong.