Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. We got back in contact and I realized how much I missed having him in my life. Woman A: Looking back, I think he needed a partner who would tolerate his bullshit if he was to be in a relationship at all. Woman A: The longest lasting of these relationships started when I was 18 and he was 40. However, we didn't start dating until I was 18 and he was 36. They split up around 2009 and I didn't hear from him for 18 months. Do you think your age was part of the attraction for him? I think it felt good for him that an 18-year-old was choosing to spend time with him.
Research by Nottingham Trent and Bedfordshire Universities found that female primary school teachers still dramatically outnumber men, with fears that men will be falsely labelled as paedophiles hampering male recruitment. Woman B: Twenty-seven and he recently turned 42 (we're still together). We discovered we had a lot of interests in common and became good friends. Most of the men I dated more casually at the time were in their 30s. It also made me feel special — this man seemed so much more worldly than the men my age, and the fact that he was interested in me seemed too good to be true. Woman D: Originally I think I was flattered that somebody who had experienced so much of life was interested in me. Woman B: I rented a flat in the backyard of his then-girlfriend. But I knew he was probably 10 years older than me and that was a little bit of the attraction, because I thought that he would be older and more settled with none of the bullshit that you have in your 20s.I’ve written for the Telegraph before about how almost every aspect of the man-child interface has been blighted by the seeming omnipresence of paedophilia.And with every Jimmy Savile or Rolf Harris front-page expose, it’s getting worse.Sometimes with older men looking for teen girls there is a risk of misunderstanding or of taking a lot of time getting to know a potential partners through conventional means such as regular dating, dining or cinema visits, only to find that the young girls are not, in fact, looking for a serious relationship.