Dear Alice, I recently began dating a guy who is HIV positive.
I know how it is transmitted and the risks involved, but I was wondering if there are any statistics out about being infected in my similar situation.
Dating is tough in general, but being HIV-positive while seeking a mate presents a whole host of unique questions and issues. Yes, there are many HIV-specific dating sites, including HIVDating Online.com, HIVPoz.net, and Positive Singles.com, which has over 15,000 members'all of whom are positive for either HIV or another condition they specify (for instance, HPV or herpes).
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Risk is reduced even further when the following qualifications are met: Risk of transmission varies with viral load, which is entirely unique to each individual.
Consistent and correct condom usage is key to lowering transmission risk in mixed status couples, regardless of viral load.
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