Even very Church oriented Christ centered Christians are having a hard time staying sexually pure.
Today, I want to get into specifics on staying sexually pure. After being married and having a sex life, it can feel excruciatingly slow to back everything up to holding hands, then a soft kiss, then a lingering kiss, and then a more passionate kiss . If you add sex into the mix, you’ll feel prematurely attached and less able to see them clearly. I realize it may feel like you don’t have that kind of time, but slow isn’t years. We cannot do this on our own, so seek out all the Christian resources you need to stay sexually pure. What God Wants: Your Obedience When writing “10 Best Decisions a Single Can Make,” I looked up the key words in 1 Thes. I have inserted their meanings in the parenthesis so the interpretation and application can be seen more clearly:“It is God’s will (His desire, decision and intent) that you should be sanctified (consecrated, set apart for a holy use): that you should avoid (abstain, distance yourself, keep away from) sexual immorality (fornication, consenting sex involving someone who is unmarried, all sex of any kind outside the context of the marital bed, including adultery, premarital and extramarital intercourse, homosexuality, prostitution, and other perversions); that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy (consecrated, dedicated to God) and honorable (respectful and treating as if it has high precious value), not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God (people who do not believe in God, or have yet to realize or perceive God); and that in this matter, no one should wrong or take advantage (exploit or outwit, often motivated by greed or self-indulgence) of a brother or sister.” —1 Thes.4:3-6To get what we want, we just need to do what God wants. Check out Part 2 of this dating guide to find out exactly how you can achieve this level of sexual integrity in today’s dating culture.by Scott Croft Before continuing with this column, please review the preamble included at the beginning of Scott's first article in this series, "Biblical Dating: An Introduction." * * * A promise is a promise.Last time I appeared on this site, I said that I would lay out my position on biblical dating and then turn it over to all of you to determine the rest of the column's topics by your questions. As many of you will know from the Boundless blog, The Line, the last piece generated many posts and comments, from the challenging to the supportive, the general to the specific.How to identify if you have soul ties from past relationships?